Hey guys, I want to talk to you for a little bit about some stuff I learned that helped me stop my divorce. I can remember back 10+ years ago when my wife and I were going through our separation.
The only thing that I could think about was… “How Do I Stop My Divorce?!?”
However, what I found in those situations was that there were many things that you can do to help stop a divorce or correct problems before they get to that point. The first thing I had to realize, though, was that as much as I wanted to win my wife back, I might not be able to.
As hard as a reality this was, I knew I had to prepare myself mentally for it. This isn’t thinking pessimistically, it is being realistic which is what I needed to be.
So what did I do first?
OK, first find someone to talk to who has had some experience in dealing with this.. whether it be a Pastor, family member, or close friend. Just make sure that they don’t pull punches with you…
The last thing you need right now is for someone to sugar-coat things and just tell you that everything is going to be “OK”.
You could try going to therapy. Many marriages have been brought back from the edge with counseling… and it doesn’t have to be expensive either.
But honestly ask yourself, I you had any chance of getting back together with your wife, how much would you spend? You could spend alot more in Divorce Attorney fees and alimony, right?
Man I’ll tell you… this was the absolute hardest thing for me to change, because I just didn’t want to admit I was wrong.
Still, in the end, arguing will only make the situation worse. I tried to call it “reasoning” or “communicating”, but truthfully I was just trying to get her to admit that she was wrong.
If you’re serious and you want to stop your divorce and win your wife back, then realize that your battle is against your separation, not your wife. You see, the more I argued with her, the more bull-headed I became to her.
Don’t try to defend yourself.
Even if you absolutely know you’re in the right… don’t try to make her see it your way. I did this plenty of times. It simply won’t work.
So do yourself a favor and memorize this:
“One convinced against their will,
is of the same opinion still.”
So what does this mean?
Well, simply put, if I had to force my wife to believe something, even if the evidence was overwhelmingly in my favor… I found that she would not accept it just to be spiteful.
So what did I do?
I had to find the truth, however painful it was and agree to it. If I was an idiot (which I was), then I had to accept that and build on it. The thing is, the more I could agree with the things she would say, the more she would be willing to agree with me.
This was a huge thing that I learned from The Magic of Making Up… and I would highly recommend it to you if you’re really serious about saving your marriage.
Now I know what your thinking… just some “Do-It-Yourself Love Guru B.S. Guide”, right?
Well, believe me… it’s not.
T.W. Jackson is just a normal guy like us who shows you exactly what you’ve done to mess up your relationship and exactly how to fix it. Plus, for $39 it’s definitely worth a shot… and since it’s got a 60-day guarantee, you’re not risking anything, so check it out.
Also, before you take off, I wanted to tell you of a couple of BONUSES you’ll get when you get your copy of The Magic of Making Up today:
BONUS #1: MIND MAGIC – Psychological Tactics For Relationships
These “Mind Magic Tricks” are the perfect tool to accompany The Magic of Making Up main strategy guide. You’ll learn simple tricks like how to get your Ex dying to answer your phone call or text message… but what you do from there on is the strategy you’ll learn from the main guide.
Also you’ll get T.W. Jackson’s “Magic Second Chance Letter” and learn HOW and WHEN is the best time to use it.
BONUS #2: THE CLEAN SLATE METHOD
Did you know that an apology can actually do more harm than good? It’s true… if you’re in the wrong and don’t apologize the right way, then you can pretty much kiss your relationship goodbye. The Clean Slate Method will step you through what to say and exactly how to say it.
To be honest, I wish I would have had these guides long before our separation. I would have avoided a lot of landmines. So, do yourself a favor and get The Magic of Making Up right now and get started…
Talk to you soon,
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Your information is golden
Thanks for the tip. The section about arguing was an eye opener. It seems like such a no-brainer in a relationship, but I just never could drop the issue when my wife and I would argue. The information in Mind Magic was golden. -Duane