Win Your Wife Back

What’s the best relationship advice for getting your ex back even after you cheated on her?  Well, most people would say that an affair is a relationship killer.  I don’t believe that.  I don’t believe that any relationship is beyond repair as long as both people want to save it.

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Building back trust in a troubled relationship is going to take a change in your attitude and a little bit of work.  It is possible to save a marriage after an affair, but only if you’re willing to do what it takes to earn your wife’s trust. 
 
Now, if you did have an affair, then you need to look at what it was that caused you to stray.  There might be some deep-seeded relationship issues that’s just not right… the good news is that you can fix it.

Ask yourself what it was you were searching for before you strayed. 

Did she not spend enough time with you?

How often did the two of you have sex? 

Was she not pretty enough? 

Face it, you would not have had an affair if your relationship was even close to perfect, right?   So what can you do to fix it?  Well, it’s different for each individual and couple. 

Gaining back trust in a broken relationship means fixing the problems deep down.  Sometimes it might mean that you should go to relationship counseling.

However, just knowing the underlying reasons may not be enough… you’ll have to take some action.  After all, you can’t just talk about doing the right things… you have to actually do them.  Makes sense right? 

You can start by simply making tiny little promises… AND KEEPING THEM !!!  For example, if you promise every evening to take the trash out, then do it and make a habit of it.  When she starts trusting you with the little things, she’ll eventually start trusting you with more important things.

You’ll need to constantly reassure your wife (or girlfriend) that you are a changed man.  That will mean you are going to have to apologize a little more often.  Also, you have to not get defensive when she brings up the affair.  It’s not that she wants to rub it in, but you have to understand that it may not be so easy for her to forgive and forget.  So be patient. 

Now, don’t think that you will have to feel guilty about the affair forever.  As a matter of fact, if you let her constantly put you on a guilt trip, she won’t feel satisfied with the new marriage relationship you’re trying to build.

Lastly, you want to use the incident of the affair as an opportunity for the two of you to grow individually and together as your relationship matures.  Think of how a bone grows stronger where it was broken.  It’s possible for a marital relationship to be stronger after the affair. 

It does take time though.  Restoring a love relationship will require both of you to change your attitudes and the way you act.

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